My sister Pam went to be with our Lord on Friday last.

          God was good as Pam had experienced some really bad luck over the past few months with her quality of life diminishing at an amazing rate. Bringing her home quickly was a blessing.

          Pam was my only sister, five years my senior and always a good friend and supporter.

          She graduated from Gridley High School in 1959 the same year our family moved to Emporia. She attended E-State for a year and then married her boyfriend Jerry Wilkinson. He was from Madison which was Gridley's arch-rival, but Wilky was very cool and he drove a cocky 57' Chevy.

          Pam and Jerry were good to my fiancée Paula and me. We socialized together, were in the Jaycees, played ball and hunted. We also babysat their three kids a LOT. I even coached Jay's Bantam League baseball team.

          Eventually, they moved from Emporia and in 1977 divorced.  Life was hard for Pam for a while, but old Jaycee friends, a job in a state-wide political contest and other friends came to her aide and she rebounded strongly.

          Enter Wayne Matlock!  He was older, about five foot eight and well.... he was a big, but solid man. Former President of the Kansas Jaycees, recently widowed and a friend to everyone. He and Pam were both working for Daryl Schuster a former Jaycee President who was running for the U.S, Senate. They dated a little and decided to get hitched.

          Great come back, Sis!

          Uncle Wayne, as we affectionately called him, was a lot of things. A pilot, a polo player and horse owner, Chiefs suite owner for a while, an authority on about any topic and an entrepreneur. He knew people everywhere and never lacked for big ideas.

          Most importantly - though was that he adored my sister and always put her first. He made her happy.

          Wayne died unexpectedly in 2005 leaving Pam alone again. Fortunately, she had 3 great kids, Jay in Tucson, Chris at Council Grove Lake and Janie in Andover. They gave her grandkids and even a great-grandson. She also was loved by two very special stepdaughters and their families.

          Pam and her cousins had many interesting encounters that won't be described here. She was a family person and Aunt Pam to my sons.

          She moved into Andover, made new friends, starting playing bridge again, and upped her Miss Kansas activities.

          Pam got involved in Scholarship Pageants with the Miss Emporia Pageant in 1969 and ended being an active lifelong Miss Kansas supporter.  Former Miss Kansas Kimberly Dugger will sing at my sister's services tomorrow.

          I'm at a point where I feel numb. She was my big sister. She could have out-ed me a hundred times, but never did. Hopefully, I reciprocated her love.      

          One Post said they "could still see her big smile and bubbly personality - that her laugh was contagious." We all agree.

          I just know our Christmas will be a lot less joyous without Pam and especially without her Chex Mix loaded with cashews!

          Love you, Sis.

          I'm Steve Sauder

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